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What causes low self-esteem

February 1, 2024
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Have you ever stopped to wonder why, despite your achievements and capabilities, you still sometimes feel like you're not enough?

Low self-esteem is more common than you might think, and it can really hold you back in life. It’s like a voice in your head telling you you’re not good enough, and it can come from lots of different places. 

Maybe it’s been there since you were a kid, or maybe it’s something that developed later in life. But here’s the thing: understanding where it comes from is a big step towards feeling better about yourself

In this post, we’re going to dig into some of the reasons why you might struggle with low self-esteem. We want to help make sense of it all, in simple, easy-to-understand language. Because everyone deserves to feel good about themselves, right? So, let’s get started on this journey together, and find out more about what might be going on beneath the surface.

Now, let's delve into the heart of the matter and uncover the main causes of low self-esteem. Do you identify with any of them?

Causes of low self-esteem: early life experiences 

Our self-esteem starts to take shape in our early years. It’s like a seed that gets planted and needs the right care to grow. If we receive lots of love, praise, and encouragement, our self-esteem can flourish

But if we face criticism, neglect, or too much pressure, it might start to wither. Think of a child learning to ride a bike. Cheers and claps when they succeed (or even just try) can build their confidence. But harsh words if they fall can have the opposite effect. 

These early experiences stick with us. They form the blueprint of how we see and value ourselves in later life. So, it’s really important to be aware of these roots, as they play a big part in shaping our self-esteem.

Causes of low self-esteem: social comparisons 

We all compare ourselves to others sometimes. It's pretty normal. But when it becomes a constant habit, it can really start to affect our self-esteem. Imagine you’re scrolling through social media, and you see photos of friends looking happy and successful. It’s easy to think, “Why isn’t my life like that?” 

But here’s the thing: what we see online isn’t always the full story. People usually share their best moments, not their struggles. Constantly comparing our behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel can make us feel less worthy. It’s important to remind ourselves that everyone has their own path and challenges. 

Focusing on our own journey, rather than getting caught up in comparisons, can help maintain a healthier self-esteem.

Causes of low self-esteem: perfectionism 

Striving for perfection might sound like a good thing. But when it turns into a never-ending quest, it can be harmful to our self-esteem

Imagine you’re working on a project. If you aim for perfection and fall short, you might start to feel like a failure. But here’s a different way to look at it: making mistakes is part of learning and growing. Setting high standards is okay, but they need to be realistic. When we learn to accept that it’s okay not to be perfect, we take a huge step toward improving self-esteem. It’s about finding a balance and being kind to ourselves, recognizing our achievements, and learning from our setbacks. This way, we can strive for progress, not perfection, and feel good about ourselves along the way.

Causes of low self-esteem: negative self-talk 

Have you ever noticed the way you talk to yourself in your head? 

Sometimes, we can be our own worst critics. If we constantly tell ourselves we’re not good enough, it’s tough to feel confident. It’s like having a mean friend living in our head, always putting us down. But here’s the good news: you don’t have to live like this! 

By paying attention to our inner dialogue and challenging those negative thoughts, we can start to build a kinder, more supportive relationship with ourselves. Think of it as retraining your brain to be more positive. It takes practice, but over time, it can make a big difference in how you feel about yourself.

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Causes of low self-esteem: body image issues 

In a world that often values appearance, it's easy to tie our self-worth to how we look. When you don’t meet these high beauty standards, it can lead to feeling bad about yourself. It’s like you’re in a constant battle with your own reflection. 

Remember, your value goes way beyond your appearance. Embracing all parts of yourself, including your so-called flaws, is a key step towards improving your self-esteem. Celebrating what our bodies can do, instead of just how they look, helps shift our focus and boost our self-worth.

Causes of low self-esteem: traumatic experiences 

Going through tough times, like bullying, abuse, or neglect, can leave a lasting impact on how we see ourselves. It’s like carrying a heavy weight that pulls down our self-esteem. 

It’s important to know that support is available and healing is possible. Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or professional can be a first step towards lifting that weight. You’re not alone, and you deserve to feel good about yourself, no matter what you’ve been through.

How to build self esteem and confidence

The great news is that our level of self-esteem is not set in stone or inherently part of us.

Self-esteem can be worked on when you realize that change is possible, and it’s absolutely worth it. Through awareness, you can start to identify the negative thought patterns and behaviors that are holding you back. 

Hypnosis can help change your mindset to accept your flaw and learn to love them. Its effectiveness is backed by extensive scientific research. By tapping into your subconscious mind, hypnosis helps to rewire your thought patterns, fostering a more positive view of yourself. 

With hypnosis, you will learn the tools to build a stronger, more supportive internal dialogue. You’l learn to proactively take steps to enhance your self-perception. Remember, the power for change lies within you, and with the right support, boosting your self-esteem is well within reach.

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Here’s how Oneleaf can help improve your self-esteem:

  1. Reshapes self-image: transforms negative thoughts into a positive self-view.
  2. Reduces self-doubt: boosts self-esteem and confidence in abilities.
  3. Strengthens inner voice: amplifies positive self-talk and determination.
  4. Manages stress: provides relaxation techniques to maintain calmness and confidence.
  5. Enhances Sleep: promotes a restful mindset for improved sleep quality and overall well-being.

By using self-hypnosis, you can start reshaping your thoughts and boosting your confidence today. Don’t let self-doubt and insecurities control your life any longer. 

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